Life's Not Fair
Life's not fair. It's not equitable, impartial, unprejudiced, unbiased, objective or dispassionate. It's inordinately unbalanced and unfair. The good don't always win, the smartest don't always get ahead, and hard work is not consistently rewarded. People are born within and with different circumstances: silver spoon, no spoon, two parents, no parents, in a peaceful country, in a war-torn country, with eyesight, with no sight, with learning challenges, with genius. It's the ultimate goal to make it even and balanced, however as it sits today, fair is simply a mental construct. Fairness in our treatment of others is the right pursuit and should continue to be our aim, but expecting all things to be equitable, at all times, can be very incapacitating.
“It’s not fair” is bound to be on the top ten list of the most repeated declarations by many teenagers. The common response is, “oh well, life's not fair.” Looking for or insisting on fairness can cause us to overlook our choices and the internal conviction needed to keep going despite. Life's not fair as a mantra or justification minimizes the impact or influence we have on our circumstances.
The idea of fairness can be crippling if you attach the need for fairness to your endeavours and to the outcomes of your efforts.
Some people are born with multiple blessings and advantages, and others, not so much. Your assessment of whether life's fair will often depend on who you're comparing yourself to. So, what do you do? You learn from and change what you can change, and you believe that you can influence your life. What's fair is often a matter of perspective and taking the view of what's possible is often the best way forward.
“Life is not always fair. Sometimes you get a splinter even sliding down a rainbow.” ~Terri Guillemets
Of course, we need to hear and respect each other, to have equal access to possibilities and not be turned away based on race, gender or religion. Seeking fairness, however, before beginning, trying and risking, only limits what we can leverage and achieve.
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