Have you ever looked back on a situation and thought, how did I believe that so completely? Where did that story even come from? Most of us have had moments where we were convinced we were seeing things clearly, only to realize later that our view missed the mark. When we’re immersed in an experience, we tend to assume our thoughts, feelings and conclusions are accurate and reliable. We believe we’re seeing clearly, thinking logically and responding to reality. But often, we’re responding...

When Sorry Isn't Enough I’ve often seen this when I’m working with couples: there’s been a rupture, something has happened that broke trust, caused hurt, or left one person feeling betrayed. Sometimes it’s a major betrayal. Other times, it’s repeated hurt feelings that have built up over time. Either way, one person is in pain, while the other is usually desperate to move past the discomfort. The person who caused the hurt will often say something like, “I’ve said I’m sorry. I keep telling...

I’m seeing more estrangement in families. It's not just in headlines or podcasts but in my own coaching practice. I’m seeing adult children who haven’t spoken to their parents in years. I’m seeing parents who are confused and grieving relationships they hoped would look very different. I’m seeing siblings stop speaking, grandparents lose access to their grandchildren, and families fractured. I want to be very clear: there are absolutely situations where distance is necessary. Some...